My friend, who knows me as well as I know myself suggested I “get honest” and by writing this I am being truly honest. You may not like it, you may be afraid, you may have an “AHA” moment. Whatever happens, this is my truth to you.
I have been a Life Coach for more than 2 decades. I have worked with many types of people….I am an equal opportunity Life Coach. This is what I know for certain. All people have a “story”. Everyone! The bad thing about that is you become ADDICTED to your story. It is like everything else….if you keep repeating that story over and over again you become that which you are telling. I am a recovering addict/alcoholic, and I have told my story so many times I lost count. I do know that I had to stop telling it and for 99% of the time I have stopped. The addict me, the alcoholic me, the adult child of an alcoholic me, the sexually abused me, the physically abused me is dead, the cancer patient me is dead, the full blown AIDS me is dead. She is dead, she is gone, she is buried.
I was addicted to the groups I attended every single day became a new addiction for me. Thinking of NOT going to a meeting caused me major anxiety attacks. God intervened and I do not attend meetings everyday. What I was doing was switching addictions. Everyone I have ever met has an addiction. Food, being perfect, sex, sitting at their computers doing anything but work, spending, accumulating stuff, eating, not eating, exercise, alcohol, over working, drugs, anger…the list of addictions is endless.
At the core of our being is some kind of PAIN…….which stands for Pay Attention Inward Now. When we have become sick and tired enough or being sick and tired, we can reach inside and Feel that pain, Deal with that pain, and then Heal that pain. I make it sound so easy and I know it is not. But….you can stop to dragging it around like a security blanket. Our pain can be from being abused, lied to, being told lies about ourselves, feeling alone and unloved, feeling unworthy and less than. All LIES!!!!!! But, we keep sharing our story with anyone who will listen or read it….because that is all the identity we have.
I want you to know that you are able and allowed to heal. I want you to know that you are worthy. I want you to know that are loved. I want you to know that you are not alone. I want you to know that God does not make junk and the Big Bang Theory just doesn’t hold up. I want you to know that as long as you keep hanging onto your story that is exactly what you will have in your present life. Chaos, drama, fear, uncertainty, illness…they have become your companions. Without them, you panic and have no clue who or what you are.
You are stuck in the muck of it all. So, you decide. Who are you now, minus your entire story? What is your vision? What do you really want your life to look like?
God will and can help you. Stop living your old story….it is really not who you can be. It is ugly, infectious, and it is not the present. Holding onto it also acts like a dust catcher, so all the yuck in the world will keep sticking to your life, your very being. Is that what you really want? Yes, it is scary to think about all of this. Without your story….who are you? Without your story….who will you have to validate you?
I am asking you, encouraging you to take a leap of faith and Pay Attention Inward Now, then Feel it, Deal with it, and Heal it. Lose the story. Create your vision. Learn to love living in peace. It’s okay. Just because happiness and peace may be something that you have never known consistently or had mere glimpses of, you have nothing to lose. Your story will always be there if you have to live in the muck of it all.
I am here if you need me to help you co-author your New Life Story. I am here to walk that journey with you. You deserve better and when you know better, you do better.
Now you know the truth. Are you willing to let go?