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Lesson #40 Internet Connections


My intention was never to become a computer user.  They seemed to be a whole lot of added busy work to what I was already doing.  One of the things I am is a writer.  I love writing in my journals and working on articles and books, using my typewriter.  To this day, I must hand write everything first and then type them up at the computer.  It’s sounds odd…but I do my best writing and thinking when I can feel the paper with my hands and stick the pen in my mouth or click the clicker a hundred times, until I find just the right word I am looking for.

Once the computer was in my house I looked at it like an uninvited guest.  I would avoid it.  I would walk passed it and turn my head so I wouldn’t see it.  I even put a small quilt over it and pretended it was something else.  Someone finally said, you know you can play solitaire on that thing and you can play other games against the computer.  Hmmm….play against the computer…beat the computer…prove it was just a box of wires and chips and things that were useless compared to the human mind.  Sounded like a wonderful thing to do.  Beat the blasted computer!!!!

Well, that was the end of my stand off.  I started playing against good old Mr. AI and lost.  I lost not once, but 5 times in a row.  I fluctuated between confusion and solutions to beating him.  Yes, the computer became a man…Mr. Artificial Intelligence, my nemesis.  My nemesis led me to a new world…the Internet.

Once I was on the Internet, I got involved in a couple of really nice groups.  I liked the people…or rather, I liked the way they presented themselves to be.  I hope never to know who they really were.  At the time, they became friends who lived in other states and countries, and it was a refreshing way to end my day.  My boys would be in bed; on went the computer, and I was off to travel the super highway on a grand adventure.

Through the years since I was introduced to the Internet, I have met many amazing people online.  I have met writers, artists, parents of children with addiction issues, people dealing with chronic illnesses, people who think outside the box and color outside the lines.  I am in awe at their kindness, their willingness to think about and pray for a stranger.  I have been blessed to have met many of my online friends in person and our coming together did not disappoint.  It was joy filled and I carry those great memories in my heart and mind each day.  On the other hand, there is a dark side to the Internet.  People can be whoever they choose to be.  They don’t have to be honest…at least by Internet standards, and they can often be very mean.  Others never ever seem to have even one good and happy day.  They thrive in their misery and sadly that misery has become who they are.

When I became part of this new Internet world I set and intention to be a positive seed planter, an encourager, and to remain present and available to people who may need someone to talk with.  I am an open book on the Internet.  My life has no secrets, and some of the chapters are quite sad but, they are nothing compared to the potential for me to touch at least one life and add some happiness or cause someone to look at things differently.  It is always my prayer that each day, when I spend my allotted amount of time (yes I set a specific amount of time) on the Internet, that I will meet someone who just needs someone to listen, or to help someone smile.  Everyday I receive many smile moments to add to my “smile bank” from people I may never meet, who know more about who I am than my own biological family.

Thank you Internet family for allowing me into your lives.  🙂

Sarah-Pink Welch ©2012

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Lesson #33 ***Walking In Gratitude***


Since I have gotten back into connecting more with people than in the last few years, I have been getting these questions….”What in the world are you so grateful for?”  “Why are you so happy?”  Maybe I don’t think about the questions much, because 99% of the time they are asking because I deal with health issues and a pretty odd family.

For as long as I can remember, I have walked in gratitude.  I really don’t know any other way to be.  I have other choices of course….I could stay in bed, I could be angry, I could be so sad I never laugh, I could even end it all.  I don’t even think anyone would be angry about that.  Life has not been a bed of roses, but I love meandering my way through the thorns without getting pricked, and I pick tons of pink roses along the journey.

I have never asked, “why me,” in fact I say “why not me?”  I am just like any other human; differing in the way I think, look, the way I live, the stuff that makes us all different.  I am a human with health issues.  So what.  I don’t know how to give in or quit fighting for my life.  I have a family that is so dysfunctional, I don’t talk with them.  So what.  I have created my own family made of people that I have been blessed to meet and love.  I am human and have my times of sorrow, when I think of those I miss so much.  There is nothing more I choose to do about that.  Things are what they are and being sad is not fun and not going to change anything, so I do what I need to do to get out of the sadness.  Anyone can do that…it isn’t magic.  It’s changing the way you think and your life will follow.  Happy thoughts–happy life.  Not perfect, but happy.

I walk in gratitude.  I live in gratitude. I breathe in gratitude.  I am content in gratitude.  There are so many events, people, and things I am grateful for, I couldn’t possibly list them all.

I am grateful I live in peace.  I am grateful for the people in my life.  I am grateful for each day I am alive.  I live inside a house…not outside.  There is food to eat if I choose to eat.  There is music to listen to and music to create.  There are books to read and learn from.  I have love in my life.  I like who and what I am.  I have friends I love.  My husband is my best friend.

My body may not cooperate all the time, but I am still standing.  I am grateful to keep moving forward.

I pay attention to other people; I listen and watch them.  They “seem” to have it all.  “Seem” is the operative word here.  They have the cars, the big houses, the money, the “stuff.”  But, if I could change places with them, I wouldn’t.  Often, I see them looking miserable…they really don’t have it all.  They are lacking gratitude, contentment, authentic joy…..they have to keep accumulating their stuff and don’t include gratitude in any of it.  This doesn’t apply to all people, but the majority of those that “have” just have to keep “having.”

My body and my “blood” family may be on the dysfunction junction end of things, but at least I know who I am, what I am capable of creating, how to rest in gratitude and smile when it rains.  And I will continue to move forward with my spirit overflowing with happiness, joy, and gratitude!

Sarah©2012

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Lesson #30 We Must Do Something!


Yesterday as I was listening to the radio they announced that singer Whitney Houston had died.  It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know how.  Sitting here, I know her death will be drug related.  Please know that when I use the words “drug” or “substance” that I am including alcohol.  After all….alcohol is a drug.

Last week, I watched a 10 year old, homeless, heroin addict’s casket be lowered into the ground.  All senseless and sad.  How much more is America and the world for that matter going to be okay with this insanity?  People have died, people are dying.  Mothers and fathers don’t sleep because their child is out there somewhere, doing whatever it takes to get what they need to feel nothing again.  Partners are calling friends and family in search of their partner, who is out there somewhere, doing everything they can do to get what they need because they are so stressed out that being high is the only way they can cope with things.

Men and women are spending every cent they can get their hands on, feeding slot machines, lottery tickets, or card games in hope of hitting it big.  Sometimes they do hit it big, but they can’t walk away and before you know it, they are broke.  There is no food in their homes, the bills haven’t been paid, their children need to see the doctor, but the money is now in the pockets of some greedy idiot who could care less.

How many more lives, families, cities have to die before someone steps up and says NO MORE?  One life lost, one family broken up is enough for me.

Even cigarettes.  We all know that they are highly addictive.  The surgeon general of the U.S. puts nice warnings on the sides of each pack.  So they know already that is something that will destroy your health and eventually will have something to do with your death.  But, like alcohol…you can get your hands on them.

I am allowing myself a little time to be sad, to be angry, to be tired of it.  But, I am scrambling through my brain to come up with something that will end all the craziness.  Why is it that a 10 year old or myself know where to find the dealers and the powers that be don’t?  See, I consider drug dealers to be serial killers.  They are right up there with pedophiles, rapists, and physical/emotional abusers. I am not sorry to say that if I had my way, I would find them all leave them at Alcatraz, and I would fill the surrounding waters with Piranha’s…and once a week I would have a helicopter drop food there.  No bars, no guards, no visitors, no anything.

Why, why, why?  It just keeps getting worse and I know there are good folks doing what they can to help those of us who are addicted to get and stay well.  The odds however and not in their favor.  Let’s say someone has an addiction and do need what can be found in rehab centers.  Well, once you find a good rehab, it’s all about the insurance and money it takes to be there.  Most people have the wrong insurance or no insurance or no money.  That too is insanity.  If the government allows this stuff….the drugs, the gambling, the cigarettes to exist, then shouldn’t they be responsible for the aftermath that follows?  Shouldn’t it cost nothing to get well again?

Did you know, that currently 9 million Americans struggle with prescription medicine addiction?  Doctors just hand it out like candy. 50% of all car accidents are alcohol related.  Overall, about one third of the population has a drug addiction problem of one kind or another, whether legal or illegal.  And, we allow it…maybe not because we don’t care, but because our hands are tied.

I think, if every American, could start turning in the names of any dealers they have heard of, the police would have to start making arrests.  If you are not alcoholic….stop buying alcohol.   Drink tea instead.  Write the judges, write the senators, the congressmen, the governors, your city mayor and council people.  Don’t stop writing them.  Enough is enough.

Or maybe,we can just sit back and ignore it.  I mean if it hasn’t affected you why care?  I know something you don’t.  Eventually, it affects everyone.

Take a stand and do something.

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #29 The Balancing Act


This could be a very tricky thing to do….balancing your life.  So what is balance?  The dictionary states that balance is “the equal distribution” of things.  Okay, I paraphrased….but I think you get what I’m saying.

Let’s look at typical human beans (this is how I spell us).   Okay, Jane and Joe both have a job, they have an apartment, Jane belongs to 3 clubs, Joe….bowls twice a week. On Sunday they attend church and have dinner with one or the other’s families.  They take turns.  Now, Jane only likes attending 2 meetings of the 3 clubs she belongs to, but she won’t give up the third because all the uber rich and amazing ladies are in that club.  Joe likes to bowl, but once a week is more than plenty for him.  He bowls twice a week because his boss is on the second team with him and he wants to appear like a “good company” man.  Jane and Joe both like the idea of church but, they attend one that is…wait for it……..uber cool.  All the supposedly rich and cool folks go there and Joe and Jane want to be uber everything.  Now just 2 miles away from their home is a church they have attended 3 times.  It is far from uber…..except in the God department.  The pastor is wonderful and offers sermons that Joe and Jane actually talked about the entire week after and they actually did things that the pastor suggested to do and they loved it.  They find going to dinner at each others families homes is nice, but doing it every single Sunday has become a bother.  They love their families, but they would really like to be at home on Sunday just to relax, talk, take a nap, and get ready for the week.  They have what seems like a balanced life right?  Well they don’t.

Jane sees her close friends very seldom, she doesn’t have time to go to Yoga (which she absolutely loves), she and Joe don’t take walks or bike rides anymore and  that causes her to feel sad.  Jane loves to cook, but with her job, the meetings, bowling, laundry, cleaning, returning phone calls and answering emails, there is NO time for any of that.  They have take-out almost every night for dinner.  Jane and Joe have unequaled themselves right out of life.  Can you imagine if they had a child?

So let’s sit down with Joe and Jane and see what we can do to help them find balance.  They are both willing and more than open to not being “uber”.  So, that means Jane could give up that club she doesn’t really care for.  Joe likes his job, but he won’t get fired if he stops bowling with his boss.  That frees up another night.  They decide that if they work together, they can clean the apartment, do the laundry all at once and be done with it.  They realize it can even be fun and gives them time to talk with each other.  As they looked at their schedules they decide they will each call their parents and let them know that they will only be having dinner with them once a month.  Guess what happened when they did that?  Both their mothers thanked them, because they were long past tired of cooking big meals every other Sunday.

Here is the life of Jane and Joe now.  Jane is able to cook and bake 4 – 5 times a week.  She got back into her Yoga class and sees her close friends afterward at a cafe nearby.  Joe cleaned up their bikes and bought new wheels and they ride together once a week.  Weather permitting they take a walk nearly every night.  Joe only bowls one evening a week now, so in place of bowling the other evening he either reads, watches television with Jane, or messes around with things that need to be fixed in their apartment.  He loves fixing things.  They have now even switched churches.  Instead of driving 17 miles one way to the “uber” church, they drive 2 miles to the church where they receive wonderful, uplifting and encouraging things to ponder and grow with.

Everyone needs the following to have a balanced life….if you work you work (and if you are a stay at home mom/dad you are working), then you need to have  “Me Time.”  This is time to just be.  You need “Social Time”.  This is when you meet with a friend or two and do whatever you decide to do.  You need to schedule time for taking care of the place where you live and your clothing as well as time to pay bills, return calls and answer mail.

The one thing that will totally mess you up is giving up your “Me Time.”  If you aren’t okay, I sadly promise you that everything around you will be messed up including your own health.

Balance.

Sarah©2012

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If You Really Knew Me…….


You would know I am more than pink hair, tattoos, piercings and the like.  If you really knew me you would not assume anything based on my appearance.  If you really knew me, you would know that I am not brave and strong but I struggle to appear that way.  I am fearful more times than not.  If you really knew me you would know that I am not a “party” creature or fond of groups of people.  I like being alone, but not lonely.  If you really knew me you would know that I miss my dad so very much it hurts; you would know that my mom, my brother and one of my children do not even like me.  This makes me sad, but there is nothing I can do to change that.  If you really knew me you would know that I have less than 5 friends…people who truly know me inside and out.  If you really knew me you would know that life has been difficult for me.  You would know I was molested for several years and blamed myself, I was abused and blamed myself, and I was raped twice and blame myself.  If you really knew me you would know that I grew up hearing….”you aren’t good enough”, “get out of the way”, “why did you live”, “why can’t you be like so and so “, “you ruined my life.”  If you really knew me, you would know that I wear my feelings on the outside and get hurt pretty often.  If you really knew me, you would know that if I love someone, I love them with all that I have and would do anything to help them.  You would know that the word LOVE is important to me and I see it as a verb.  If you really knew me you would know that I have cancer and AIDS but I don’t let them define me.  They are just another stumbling block that I keep flipping over to make a stepping stone going forward.  If you really knew me you would know that I am not impressed by money, cars, clothing, name droppers, fancy anything.  If you really knew me you would know that I envy families that are close knit and care about each other.  That is probably what I have always missed in my life the most.  If you really knew me you would know that the pink hair happened because of the cancer and my need to make a statement about finding a cure.  The tattoos and piercing and my clothing are all meant to keep people at a distance so that they won’t see how shy I really am.  If you really knew me you would know that I have always wanted to make a difference, for the better, in someone’s life.  You would know that if something is wrong, I will speak up and try to fix it or find someone who will.  If you really knew me you would know that I believe drug dealers and child molesters are the same as someone who kills just because they can.  I have no use for them and they are ruining lives every day all around the world.  If you really knew me you would know I love to read, write, listen to music, play in the snow, go fishing and camping, make things, bake, sew, dream, and take naps.  If you really knew me you would know that my husband is a truly wonderful man and I wish I had met him a long time ago.  If you really knew me  you would know that I do matter, I am worthy, I am intelligent, I am somewhat pretty, and I am finally content.  If you really knew me you would know I love words, board games, popcorn, flowers, my dog Pink, my grandchildren I have never met and the grandson I don’t see very often.  If you really knew me you would know I have begun saying to a few people….”you are NOT allowed to be mean to me anymore.”  If you really knew me you would know I lose games on purpose so people won’t know I am smart.  I ask questions I already know the answer to.  You would know that I “dumb down” 95% of the time so people won’t be intimidated by me.  If you really knew me you would know that it takes every ounce of courage I have to speak to groups of “at risk” kids or adults about drugs, alcohol, abuse, and leading a happy life and knowing they matter.  If you really knew me you would know I do that with the hope that it will help just one person.  If you really knew me you would know I go through my day in prayer for others.  I you really knew me you would know that I like things simple, free of chaos and drama, peace filled, hope filled, and joy filled.  If you really knew me you would know I would be very happy living in the country, in a small cozy house with a fireplace, with a huge garden, a few chickens and goats, maybe even a cow.  I would not mind not having a computer, a phone, and all this crazy electronic jazz.  If you really knew me…………

Sarah-Pink Welch © 2012

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Happy Happy 2012


Hi everyone!!!  I hope this finds you doing better than well and looking forward to the brand new year.  For the past 2 weeks the words awesome and extraordinary keep popping into my brain when I think of 2012.

So from me to all you, I wish you an extraordinary new year and I know that each and every day will be amazing for you all.  Just look for the small things and there will be magic.

I have my 4 page Intention List made and am so looking forward to how everything works out.  The Internet radio show I will be co-hosting with my colleague and friend Diane airs for the first time this Thursday January 5th at 9:00 pm ET  It will be amazing.  Diane is a wonderful Life Coach and human bean :o)  You are going to love her.  You can find us at blogtalkradio.com/livingalifeofintention  If you want to call in with a question the number is 347-838-9715  We also have a chat room that is available after the show.  You can also email us.  The info for that is on the radio show page and my website  hopeslifecoaching.com

So, be happy, be content, take some risks, live out loud, dance in the rain, color outside the lines and remember, Making a small difference is just as beneficial as a large one….sometimes even more!!!

Love & Peace Always

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #19 My Intentional To-Do List


This is just an example of my to-do list.  It is fairly close to the real thing.  If you have any questions about living with intention, just let me know and I will do all I can to help you.

1.  Wake up totally well rested and so very grateful for the chance to honor a new day.

(How do I know I will be well rested?  The evening before I went to sleep, I made an intention to wake up that way)

2.  Spend some time just being.  Drink some awesome tea and listen to some none chaotic music.

3.  Do my morning prayers and meditation.

4.  Fix and eat healthy foods throughout the day.  (I need to eat 5 times a day)  I do not like to eat.  My intention to cover that is… I Love Food and Eating)

5.  Exercise  (For me exercise means walking, doing some yoga stretches or dancing around my living room for 30 minutes)  Our bodies are like machines…if you don’t use a car for say 6 months I promise it will either not start or the tires will have gone flat.  Most of us take better care of our stuff than ourselves.

6.  Complete my daily to-do list and use any left over time to do extra.  Yes, I have an actual to-do list.  I have found that if I pick one room a day to dust, sweep, and pick up I avoid doing all my cleaning in the same day or days.

7.  Set aside time for my friends and family.  I love to write handwritten notes and cards and send them to people I am thinking about.  I stay in touch with my adult children by simply texting an I love xoxoxox or sending an email.  I call at least once a week.

8.  I do something that I know will cause me to laugh out loud.  When my husband leaves for work he always says either do something that makes you smile or laugh out loud.

9.  Read a book.  I love to read.  I usually read 5-7 books a week and I love taking time to read, especially outside or all cozied up on a cold or rainy day.

10.  Do something for someone else whether I know them or not, or learn something new and interesting or do something positive that increases the joy ratio in my space of the world.

11.  Journal.  I have been journaling since I was 4.  I have three types of journals that I write in each day.  I have a prayer journal where I list prayer requests I receive.  I love it when I look back at my prayer journals and see in RED ink…YES.  This means that the prayer was answered.  My 2nd journal is my gratitude journal.  Each day I write down the things that occurred that I am grateful for.  My last journal is filled with things I thought of, funny sayings I made up, or I add to my Sarahism’s.  These are words I make up for daily use.  Most of my friends know them, but I love making up new ones.  So each and every day I take time to write.

12.  End my day peacefully.  Say my prayers and a big thank you for the chance to be available to anyone who is need.

As I said, this is an example….but it happens to be today’s to-do list.  It is my intention to encourage and inspire you to do something like this.  You  might notice there was no time for drama, chaos, or frenzy and today for example, there was none.

Sweet Dreams and Peace Always

                                                                                                                       Sarah© 2011

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