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Creating A Balanced Life…And Keeping It!!


Here are just some of the things that I know work.

  1.  Unplug Yourself…Turn off the electronics as often as you can, especially on the weekend.  I hear the reasons why you must stay plugged in already, but give it a chance, at least for one day or even a few hours each night.  Put the phone down and turn off the computer. Give your work brain a rest.  Here’s the side-effect: You will have time to actually connect with your family and friends!

2.  Cut It Off…It’s a given that if your life is overflowing you will not be able to create balance and manage it all.  It’s just not possible.  Say NO to to the things/people that are either not essential or don’t add something valuable to your life.  Get hardcore with yourselves.
3.  Pay Attention To How You Feel Physically…I know and you know what we need to do, but until we are half dead we do nothing.  Our health really does affect the quality of our lives and our work.  We are far more happy and able to do more when we get enough sleep, eat a little healthy and fit in some type of physical activity.
4.  Lessen Your Toxin Intake…By that I don’t mean chemicals (though that might help as well.) Lessen the negative influences around you.  Avoid those toxic people (complainers, negative folks, gossipy, whiners, poor attitude carriers.) If you can’t completely avoid them, at least lessen the contact with them.  Surround yourself with positive, supportive, can-do people whenever possible
5.  Spend Time By Yourself…Making time for you is probably the hardest thing to do for the typical overwhelmed person, but it is crucial for lowering stress, increasing happiness and encouraging creativity.  Here are some things you can do with yourself;  meditate, write, sketch, do some yoga or simply sit quietly for a few minutes each day and do absolutely nothing.  Remember to BREATHE!!  You can do this!
6.  Relationships Count…Make sure you are spending quality time with your family and friends.  Don’t just sit in front of your television eating popcorn!  I encourage you to really connect and pay attention to those you care about.  Have a date night with your significant other, have coffee with a friend, play a game with a child.  Really get to know the people around you and who happen to love you…unbalanced and all.
7.  Practice Self/Care Self/Love…Go get yourself a pedicure or a facial.  If it costs too much go to the schools that teach it and you will have even greater service and very little cost.  Better yet, schedule a massage (there are massage schools as well).  It doesn’t need to be anything that costs a small fortune.  Have a cup of your favorite coffee or tea, light your best a scented candle or get a small bouquet of amazing flowers for yourselves.  It will make a huge difference in your life.
8.  Use Your Mind…Take a class, learn to paint or try something new that you’ve always wanted to learn to do.  Maybe you could read a book that sparks your interest or give listening to uplifting music a go.  Find what interests you.
Lastly…remember fun?  Laugh, joke, play, color, find your sense of humor, subscribe to a daily joke or get a tear-off calendar with funny things on it.  Live out loud my friends.  Life is too short.

Much Love,

Sarah-Pink 2016

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Lesson #38 Finding Peace In The Electronic Jungle!


As I sit here composing this post, I am surrounded by a telephone, a cellphone, speakers, keyboards, printers, an iPod, and more.  If I go to the bedroom, I have a radio/cd player, television, DVR, and an alarm clock.  Now as I make my way mentally to the living room I will find a big old television, 5 speakers, a gaming system, clock, dvd player, DVR, cd player, a tuner, and more.  I meander to the kitchen and see the coffee maker, telephone, refrigerator, dishwasher, huge mixer (baking is very cool)…and even more stuff.

When I was growing up I don’t remember freaking out because I couldn’t walk through our house talking on the phone.  It was an ugly green, monster of a thing that hung on the wall and it had a cord that was forever long.  I was 4 when we got our first television and it was a black and white, mediumish (I made that a new adjective) thing…and I remember watching Leave It To Beaver, Batman, Soap Operas ( I loved Dark Shadows) when I didn’t have school or if I was sick, and Saturday was all about American Bandstand with Dick Clark and I would dance around pretending I was on the show.  We had 3 channels and I did not die when I would have to actually move to the television and turn the knob to a different channel.  On laundry day, in the summer, it was my job to carry the wicker basket full of wet wash outside to hang it up with wooden clothespins.  Wow..I just remembered how that tasted, because sometimes I would have to put one in my mouth to make my way down the clothesline as I was hanging up a sheet.  Then there were the crazy clothes props that would slip off and the laundry would be touching the ground until I ran back outside to prop it up again.

My brother and I didn’t have a gaming system on the black and white television…we played Monopoly, Parcheesi, Sorry, or cards for days, or we would play outside all day long…everything from Kick the Can, Badmiton, Tag, and at night playing Ghost in the Graveyard  with our neighbor friends was awesome.  We also didn’t have cellphones.  When it was time for us to come home we would hear our parents calling us or my dad would ring this big dinner bell that he attached to a wooden post.  Our parents knew where we were and we knew to come home when we were called.  In the winter, our dad would take us to the park so we could ice skate and freeze our rear ends off while having a really amazing time.  We made snow angels, had snowball wars, snow forts, or we would stay in our rooms and read or I had a small AM transistor radio and I would enjoy listening to that.

Now, it seems like we are on this scary journey of being lost in an electronic jungle.  I watch the kids in my neighborhood playing outside and they are forever stopping so they can text whoever they are texting and these are truly very young children.  Really?  Seriously?  They just can’t play?  Then I get in a car and the thing talks to you.  What? What??  I used to love going to the gas station because they would always have a rack that held maps and they were free.  I had a ton of those things because I liked knowing the names of the cities in our states.  It was fun and often funny, because some of the names were hysterical. For example there is a Boring, Oregon…Intercourse, Pennsylvania…Accident, Maryland…Embarrass, Minnesota…Knockemstiff, Ohio….and I will stop now because I am laughing so hard it hurts…they are funny names and funnier still…I still remember them from the maps.

So it’s 2012.  We have talking cars, talking coffee makers, talking washing machines, cellphones that you could probably marry and be very happy with.  I am not against technology, electricity is good; but when is enough enough?  As cool as some electronic things are, much of the rest seem to have made us lazy and less creative.  We spend a fortune on things that will entertain us because we haven’t connected with our neighbors or stayed close to our families, and instead of hanging out in our backyards together or sharing a home cooked meal one night a week, we go to a movie that’s in 3D and we have to wear those funky glasses and after it’s all said and done we’ve spent about $100.00 for 2 people to be entertained and nothing to show for it.

If you want some real peace, I want to encourage you to do what I am going to do when I finish this…I am going to look at the electronic extras I have and give them away or sell them and if I had real courage I would recycle them and not feel guilty about it.  Get to know your neighbors, have some family members over to play cards or something.  Just go fishing and chill.  Please back away from the electronic jungle before you lose yourself!

Sarah-Pink Welch ©2012

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Lesson #34 Addicted To Your Story March 27th 2012


My friend, who knows me as well as I know myself suggested I “get honest” and by writing this I am being truly honest.  You may not like it, you may be afraid, you may have an “AHA” moment.  Whatever happens, this is my truth to you.

I have been a Life Coach for more than 2 decades.  I have worked with many types of people….I am an equal opportunity Life Coach.  This is what I know for certain.  All people have a “story”.  Everyone!  The bad thing about that is you become ADDICTED to your story.  It is like everything else….if you keep repeating that story over and over again you become that which you are telling.  I am a recovering addict/alcoholic, and I have told my story so many times I lost count.  I do know that I had to stop telling it and for 99% of the time I have stopped.  The addict me, the alcoholic me, the adult child of an alcoholic me, the sexually abused me, the physically abused me is dead, the cancer patient me is dead, the full blown AIDS me is dead.  She is dead, she is gone, she is buried.

I was addicted to the groups I attended every single day became a new addiction for me.  Thinking of NOT going to a meeting caused me major anxiety attacks.  God intervened and I do not attend meetings everyday.  What I was doing was switching addictions.  Everyone I have ever met has an addiction.  Food, being perfect, sex, sitting at their computers doing anything but work, spending, accumulating stuff, eating, not eating, exercise, alcohol, over working, drugs, anger…the list of addictions is endless.

At the core of our being is some kind of PAIN…….which stands for Pay Attention Inward Now.  When we have become sick and tired enough or being sick and tired, we can reach inside and Feel that pain, Deal with that pain, and then Heal that pain.  I make it sound so easy and I know it is not.  But….you can stop to dragging it around like a security blanket.  Our pain can be from being abused, lied to, being told lies about ourselves, feeling alone and unloved,  feeling unworthy and less than.  All LIES!!!!!!  But, we keep sharing our story with anyone who will listen or read it….because that is all the identity we have.

I want you to know that you are able and allowed to heal.  I want you to know that you are worthy.  I want you to know that are loved.  I want you to know that you are not alone.  I want you to know that God does not make junk and the Big Bang Theory just doesn’t hold up.  I want you to know that as long as you keep hanging onto your story that is exactly what you will have in your present life.  Chaos, drama, fear, uncertainty, illness…they have become your companions.  Without them, you panic and have no clue who or what you are.

You are stuck in the muck of it all.  So, you decide.  Who are you now, minus your entire story?  What is your vision?  What do you really want your life to look like?

God will and can help you.  Stop living your old story….it is really not who you can be.  It is ugly, infectious, and it is not the present.  Holding onto it also acts like a dust catcher, so all the yuck in the world will keep sticking to your life, your very being.  Is that what you really want?  Yes, it is scary to think about all of this.  Without your story….who are you?  Without your story….who will you have to validate you?

I am asking you, encouraging you to take a leap of faith and Pay Attention Inward Now, then Feel it, Deal with it, and Heal it.  Lose the story.  Create your vision.  Learn to love living in peace.  It’s okay.  Just because happiness and peace may be something that you have never known consistently or had mere glimpses of, you have nothing to lose.  Your story will always be there if you have to live in the muck of it all.

I am here if you need me to help you co-author your New Life Story.  I am here to walk that journey with you.  You deserve better and when you know better, you do better.

Now you know the truth.  Are you willing to let go?

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #28 Loss, Worry, And Fear


Let me start by saying that there are only 2 emotions—-LOVE and FEAR!  So, if you took a piece of paper and wrote LOVE on one side and FEAR on the other, you will quickly see that anger for instance is FEAR based.  Loneliness is FEAR based.  Happiness is LOVE based.  Hope is LOVE based.

Now loss is loss and it falls under fear.  We human beans are hardwired to become fearful when we experience the loss of someone of something we love.  It is NEVER easy to lose what we love.  The wonderful thing is that we have the ability to grieve the loss…now we don’t want to linger too long in the grief or we will get stuck there.  But, once some time has passed, we can celebrate the happiness and moments of joy we had with that person or thing we have lost.  I have a journal that I use only for people who have gone on to Heaven.  It is filled with ever wonderful thing I remember them saying or doing.  If I become sad…which is FEAR based, I grab that journal and read until I laugh.  Enduring a loss can be difficult….is difficult, but time is an enormous healer.  I have a son that I do not see or speak with.  It was actually killing me.  I had to LOVE him and myself enough to let him go.

Worry is another FEAR based thing.  And sadly, it is not a positive thing.  In medicine, we have found that worry causes depression, weight gain, insomnia, headaches, increased blood pressure, increased cholesterol, and it even messes with our blood sugar.  Worry serves no purpose.  When we worry we are hurting ourselves, taking up valuable time (life is very short), ignoring family and friends or our jobs. Worry has led to many a stroke and heart attack.  It is okay to be concerned, but when more than 1 hour of your day is consumed with obsessive worrying you will be in trouble.  Try to do something healthy and positive instead.  If you find yourself beginning to worry, call a friend and talk only about happy things, take a walk, get a coloring book and some cool crayons and color.  Just get out of your head.  Worry has never fixed anything.  Worrying over and over again becomes a habit even an addiction.  Some folks do not know how to live without worry, chaos, and drama.  Peacefulness makes them nervous.  So take some time and flip that worry into a stepping stone toward peace and hope.

Now FEAR is an actual emotion.  It has the ability to paralyze us.  It has the power to take our spirits away and crush them.  Being afraid of spiders or storms is usually normal unless you go into an anxiety attack.  If that is the case I encourage you to talk to a Life Coach or see a professional.  If you find yourself saying things like….”if I was only a better_______this would not have happened”,  “if I had known sooner I could have saved so and so”, “I called everywhere looking for him or her”, “What if I lose my job”, “how will I ever pay for this”.  STOP!! STOP!!  STOP!!  That is all faulty thinking.  You will “coulda, woulda, shoulda, if only, what iffed yourself to an early grave.  No one can make anyone anything, no one can change anyone, no one can control anything but ourselves and the way we react or become proactive toward things.  So let go of the fear.  Let it go please.  It is not helping…it is hurting you.

Loss, worry and fear can become a vicious cycle.  Over and over and over you will go.  I encourage you to make it an intention that you are NOT FEARFUL!!!!!  Write it down on colored index cards…I am not afraid, I am okay, God is in control, I am strong, I am capable…go crazy with the positive affirmations.  It takes 21 days to form a habit…..put those cards everywhere and you WILL STOP being fearful.

You matter.  You are beautiful.  You are capable.  You are not responsible for anyone’s actions but your own.

Peace Always

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #8 Normal……..really?….just sayin’!


I have spent time thinking about the word or the concept of “NORMAL”.

I have finally come to my own conclusion about “normal”.  I researched it, read about it, and have realized that I don’t fit the description in any way, shape or form.  I’m not sad about it.  I am happy that I made my own definition for it and I am totally content with it.

Normal is definitely not what I am.  No, I don’t eat worms, or wear hats made of tinfoil, but I am not normal.  The people closest to me really aren’t normal either.  That is where I found my definition…right there in my inner circle.  And it’s going to be the very same place where you will find what normal is for you.

My Definition:  Normal is whatever the majority of people in your life decide it is!!  It’s that easy or that difficult.  I have pink hair, tattoos, piercings, and like baggy clothes.  Now, some of my people have some of those things and we like each other a lot.  Some have none of those things and we remain good friends.

When I step away from my people,  I stand out like a 60 foot statue of Pooh Bear.  People stare, they whisper, they even point at me as if to say, would you look at that!!  How dare she look like that and in public too.  I dare because I can.  If I didn’t believe how I believe, if I didn’t dress as I do, If I didn’t surround myself with like minded people, I would not be me.  I would be someone else.

So, normal is whatever you decide it is.  As long as you are being true to yourself, not hurting or offending anyone, then you are on your own journey of normal.  Enjoy and smile!!!

Sarah-Pink Welch © 2011

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