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Lesson #38 Finding Peace In The Electronic Jungle!


As I sit here composing this post, I am surrounded by a telephone, a cellphone, speakers, keyboards, printers, an iPod, and more.  If I go to the bedroom, I have a radio/cd player, television, DVR, and an alarm clock.  Now as I make my way mentally to the living room I will find a big old television, 5 speakers, a gaming system, clock, dvd player, DVR, cd player, a tuner, and more.  I meander to the kitchen and see the coffee maker, telephone, refrigerator, dishwasher, huge mixer (baking is very cool)…and even more stuff.

When I was growing up I don’t remember freaking out because I couldn’t walk through our house talking on the phone.  It was an ugly green, monster of a thing that hung on the wall and it had a cord that was forever long.  I was 4 when we got our first television and it was a black and white, mediumish (I made that a new adjective) thing…and I remember watching Leave It To Beaver, Batman, Soap Operas ( I loved Dark Shadows) when I didn’t have school or if I was sick, and Saturday was all about American Bandstand with Dick Clark and I would dance around pretending I was on the show.  We had 3 channels and I did not die when I would have to actually move to the television and turn the knob to a different channel.  On laundry day, in the summer, it was my job to carry the wicker basket full of wet wash outside to hang it up with wooden clothespins.  Wow..I just remembered how that tasted, because sometimes I would have to put one in my mouth to make my way down the clothesline as I was hanging up a sheet.  Then there were the crazy clothes props that would slip off and the laundry would be touching the ground until I ran back outside to prop it up again.

My brother and I didn’t have a gaming system on the black and white television…we played Monopoly, Parcheesi, Sorry, or cards for days, or we would play outside all day long…everything from Kick the Can, Badmiton, Tag, and at night playing Ghost in the Graveyard  with our neighbor friends was awesome.  We also didn’t have cellphones.  When it was time for us to come home we would hear our parents calling us or my dad would ring this big dinner bell that he attached to a wooden post.  Our parents knew where we were and we knew to come home when we were called.  In the winter, our dad would take us to the park so we could ice skate and freeze our rear ends off while having a really amazing time.  We made snow angels, had snowball wars, snow forts, or we would stay in our rooms and read or I had a small AM transistor radio and I would enjoy listening to that.

Now, it seems like we are on this scary journey of being lost in an electronic jungle.  I watch the kids in my neighborhood playing outside and they are forever stopping so they can text whoever they are texting and these are truly very young children.  Really?  Seriously?  They just can’t play?  Then I get in a car and the thing talks to you.  What? What??  I used to love going to the gas station because they would always have a rack that held maps and they were free.  I had a ton of those things because I liked knowing the names of the cities in our states.  It was fun and often funny, because some of the names were hysterical. For example there is a Boring, Oregon…Intercourse, Pennsylvania…Accident, Maryland…Embarrass, Minnesota…Knockemstiff, Ohio….and I will stop now because I am laughing so hard it hurts…they are funny names and funnier still…I still remember them from the maps.

So it’s 2012.  We have talking cars, talking coffee makers, talking washing machines, cellphones that you could probably marry and be very happy with.  I am not against technology, electricity is good; but when is enough enough?  As cool as some electronic things are, much of the rest seem to have made us lazy and less creative.  We spend a fortune on things that will entertain us because we haven’t connected with our neighbors or stayed close to our families, and instead of hanging out in our backyards together or sharing a home cooked meal one night a week, we go to a movie that’s in 3D and we have to wear those funky glasses and after it’s all said and done we’ve spent about $100.00 for 2 people to be entertained and nothing to show for it.

If you want some real peace, I want to encourage you to do what I am going to do when I finish this…I am going to look at the electronic extras I have and give them away or sell them and if I had real courage I would recycle them and not feel guilty about it.  Get to know your neighbors, have some family members over to play cards or something.  Just go fishing and chill.  Please back away from the electronic jungle before you lose yourself!

Sarah-Pink Welch ©2012

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Lesson #37 You Mean I Can Really Start This Life Thing Over?


Yes you can!!!!!  Things change and that includes your life.  You can take control of your life, redesign it, and watch yourself move forward and grow.  You just need to want to do it.  Redesigning your life is perfect for people who feel like they are in a rut, need or want to start a new job, or maybe you are ready for a relationship.  You don’t even have to have a special reason, only the want to.

The first thing to do is rid your home of all the things you no longer want or need.  You can donate them, have a magical yard sale or repurpose them.  While you are going through the clutter and the clothes you haven’t worn for 12 years, take some time to sit down and make a list of what you would like your life to look like.  Be as specific as possible…God is very accommodating. For example: you write down that you want to learn how to dance.  Now you may have country line dancing in your mind, but you will probably land in ballroom dancing or vice versa. So write down specifics…God has a great sense of humor.  Let’s say you deal with anger issues so you list that you would like to be rid of this challenge.  You will need a plan and of course prayer and people to support you in this.  As part of your plan you could list “find someone to talk to about this,” that is where a Life Coach can be very useful.  As a Life Coach I would suggest that you start keeping a journal of the times when you get angry.  Ask yourself what caused that reaction in you, how it made you feel, and how you handled it.  Then you touch base with your life coach and really look at the root cause of the anger.  A life coach my suggest that you check out yoga as a way to learn to relax and be still…it really does help folks who deal with anger.  Or they might suggest you take up boxing.  Seriously.  It works.

The excess stuff is now leaving your life, you are making a list and then choosing something you feel you want to work on, achieve, accomplish.  You have hired a life coach and you work together once a week.

Guess what, you have put a huge dent into Starting Over.  You can do it.  You can change careers, your attitude, your size, your relationship status, your love for painting or playing the piano.

I encourage you to spend some quality time alone and see if there are things you would like to have differently in your life or things you want to accomplish.  Go for it…..it is amazing.

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #33 ***Walking In Gratitude***


Since I have gotten back into connecting more with people than in the last few years, I have been getting these questions….”What in the world are you so grateful for?”  “Why are you so happy?”  Maybe I don’t think about the questions much, because 99% of the time they are asking because I deal with health issues and a pretty odd family.

For as long as I can remember, I have walked in gratitude.  I really don’t know any other way to be.  I have other choices of course….I could stay in bed, I could be angry, I could be so sad I never laugh, I could even end it all.  I don’t even think anyone would be angry about that.  Life has not been a bed of roses, but I love meandering my way through the thorns without getting pricked, and I pick tons of pink roses along the journey.

I have never asked, “why me,” in fact I say “why not me?”  I am just like any other human; differing in the way I think, look, the way I live, the stuff that makes us all different.  I am a human with health issues.  So what.  I don’t know how to give in or quit fighting for my life.  I have a family that is so dysfunctional, I don’t talk with them.  So what.  I have created my own family made of people that I have been blessed to meet and love.  I am human and have my times of sorrow, when I think of those I miss so much.  There is nothing more I choose to do about that.  Things are what they are and being sad is not fun and not going to change anything, so I do what I need to do to get out of the sadness.  Anyone can do that…it isn’t magic.  It’s changing the way you think and your life will follow.  Happy thoughts–happy life.  Not perfect, but happy.

I walk in gratitude.  I live in gratitude. I breathe in gratitude.  I am content in gratitude.  There are so many events, people, and things I am grateful for, I couldn’t possibly list them all.

I am grateful I live in peace.  I am grateful for the people in my life.  I am grateful for each day I am alive.  I live inside a house…not outside.  There is food to eat if I choose to eat.  There is music to listen to and music to create.  There are books to read and learn from.  I have love in my life.  I like who and what I am.  I have friends I love.  My husband is my best friend.

My body may not cooperate all the time, but I am still standing.  I am grateful to keep moving forward.

I pay attention to other people; I listen and watch them.  They “seem” to have it all.  “Seem” is the operative word here.  They have the cars, the big houses, the money, the “stuff.”  But, if I could change places with them, I wouldn’t.  Often, I see them looking miserable…they really don’t have it all.  They are lacking gratitude, contentment, authentic joy…..they have to keep accumulating their stuff and don’t include gratitude in any of it.  This doesn’t apply to all people, but the majority of those that “have” just have to keep “having.”

My body and my “blood” family may be on the dysfunction junction end of things, but at least I know who I am, what I am capable of creating, how to rest in gratitude and smile when it rains.  And I will continue to move forward with my spirit overflowing with happiness, joy, and gratitude!

Sarah©2012

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If You Really Knew Me…….


You would know I am more than pink hair, tattoos, piercings and the like.  If you really knew me you would not assume anything based on my appearance.  If you really knew me, you would know that I am not brave and strong but I struggle to appear that way.  I am fearful more times than not.  If you really knew me you would know that I am not a “party” creature or fond of groups of people.  I like being alone, but not lonely.  If you really knew me you would know that I miss my dad so very much it hurts; you would know that my mom, my brother and one of my children do not even like me.  This makes me sad, but there is nothing I can do to change that.  If you really knew me you would know that I have less than 5 friends…people who truly know me inside and out.  If you really knew me you would know that life has been difficult for me.  You would know I was molested for several years and blamed myself, I was abused and blamed myself, and I was raped twice and blame myself.  If you really knew me you would know that I grew up hearing….”you aren’t good enough”, “get out of the way”, “why did you live”, “why can’t you be like so and so “, “you ruined my life.”  If you really knew me, you would know that I wear my feelings on the outside and get hurt pretty often.  If you really knew me, you would know that if I love someone, I love them with all that I have and would do anything to help them.  You would know that the word LOVE is important to me and I see it as a verb.  If you really knew me you would know that I have cancer and AIDS but I don’t let them define me.  They are just another stumbling block that I keep flipping over to make a stepping stone going forward.  If you really knew me you would know that I am not impressed by money, cars, clothing, name droppers, fancy anything.  If you really knew me you would know that I envy families that are close knit and care about each other.  That is probably what I have always missed in my life the most.  If you really knew me you would know that the pink hair happened because of the cancer and my need to make a statement about finding a cure.  The tattoos and piercing and my clothing are all meant to keep people at a distance so that they won’t see how shy I really am.  If you really knew me you would know that I have always wanted to make a difference, for the better, in someone’s life.  You would know that if something is wrong, I will speak up and try to fix it or find someone who will.  If you really knew me you would know that I believe drug dealers and child molesters are the same as someone who kills just because they can.  I have no use for them and they are ruining lives every day all around the world.  If you really knew me you would know I love to read, write, listen to music, play in the snow, go fishing and camping, make things, bake, sew, dream, and take naps.  If you really knew me you would know that my husband is a truly wonderful man and I wish I had met him a long time ago.  If you really knew me  you would know that I do matter, I am worthy, I am intelligent, I am somewhat pretty, and I am finally content.  If you really knew me you would know I love words, board games, popcorn, flowers, my dog Pink, my grandchildren I have never met and the grandson I don’t see very often.  If you really knew me you would know I have begun saying to a few people….”you are NOT allowed to be mean to me anymore.”  If you really knew me you would know I lose games on purpose so people won’t know I am smart.  I ask questions I already know the answer to.  You would know that I “dumb down” 95% of the time so people won’t be intimidated by me.  If you really knew me you would know that it takes every ounce of courage I have to speak to groups of “at risk” kids or adults about drugs, alcohol, abuse, and leading a happy life and knowing they matter.  If you really knew me you would know I do that with the hope that it will help just one person.  If you really knew me you would know I go through my day in prayer for others.  I you really knew me you would know that I like things simple, free of chaos and drama, peace filled, hope filled, and joy filled.  If you really knew me you would know I would be very happy living in the country, in a small cozy house with a fireplace, with a huge garden, a few chickens and goats, maybe even a cow.  I would not mind not having a computer, a phone, and all this crazy electronic jazz.  If you really knew me…………

Sarah-Pink Welch © 2012

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Lesson #23 Appreciation


Appreciation.  What a lovely, 5 syllable word.  I looked it up in the dictionary and this is what I found:

noun

1.

gratitude; thankful recognition: They showed their appreciationby giving him a gold watch.
2.

the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving them their proper value.
3.

clear perception or recognition, especially of aesthetic quality: a course in art appreciation.
4.

an increase or rise in the value of property, goods, etc.
5.

critical notice; evaluation; opinion, as of a situation, person,etc.
 
Last night, like many other nights, I went outside.  It was a cloudless, full moon, January night.  The stars were amazing as usual and once again, took my breath away.  I get the same feeling when I hear small children laughing, or when a spring breeze blows my wind  chimes around.  Appreciation.  The noun.  For as long as I can remember I have had a deep appreciation for the small things in my part of the world.  My grandpa, who is now on the other side once said to me when I was crouched down,  overjoyed in a field of wild violets….most folks think those are weeds sweetie.  Oh my, oh my!!!  Two dozen roses, delivered in a box can’t take my breath away like wild violets.  Then again, I also think the dandelion needs to be our national flower.  🙂
Small things.  Blowing bubbles like a child, playing jump rope, finding cool stones in a creek, listening to the crickets at night in the summer.  Small things that I don’t take for granted.  My intention has always been, not to miss a thing.  I pay attention to everything and stay away from sensory overload.  I see the rainbows, I see the first snowflakes, I hear the first rumble of thunder off in the distance, I see the newest buds on the tress, I watch the older man and woman as they dance together like they did when they were younger.
I appreciate all of it.  I believe and recognize the “aesthetic” quality of what others may call weeds or noise or weather.
Take some time to pause and breathe.  Look up once in awhile, or look down when you take a walk in the park…like head for the trees and allow yourself to be filled with appreciation of the small things.
 
Sarah-Pink Welch ©2012
 
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Lesson #19 My Intentional To-Do List


This is just an example of my to-do list.  It is fairly close to the real thing.  If you have any questions about living with intention, just let me know and I will do all I can to help you.

1.  Wake up totally well rested and so very grateful for the chance to honor a new day.

(How do I know I will be well rested?  The evening before I went to sleep, I made an intention to wake up that way)

2.  Spend some time just being.  Drink some awesome tea and listen to some none chaotic music.

3.  Do my morning prayers and meditation.

4.  Fix and eat healthy foods throughout the day.  (I need to eat 5 times a day)  I do not like to eat.  My intention to cover that is… I Love Food and Eating)

5.  Exercise  (For me exercise means walking, doing some yoga stretches or dancing around my living room for 30 minutes)  Our bodies are like machines…if you don’t use a car for say 6 months I promise it will either not start or the tires will have gone flat.  Most of us take better care of our stuff than ourselves.

6.  Complete my daily to-do list and use any left over time to do extra.  Yes, I have an actual to-do list.  I have found that if I pick one room a day to dust, sweep, and pick up I avoid doing all my cleaning in the same day or days.

7.  Set aside time for my friends and family.  I love to write handwritten notes and cards and send them to people I am thinking about.  I stay in touch with my adult children by simply texting an I love xoxoxox or sending an email.  I call at least once a week.

8.  I do something that I know will cause me to laugh out loud.  When my husband leaves for work he always says either do something that makes you smile or laugh out loud.

9.  Read a book.  I love to read.  I usually read 5-7 books a week and I love taking time to read, especially outside or all cozied up on a cold or rainy day.

10.  Do something for someone else whether I know them or not, or learn something new and interesting or do something positive that increases the joy ratio in my space of the world.

11.  Journal.  I have been journaling since I was 4.  I have three types of journals that I write in each day.  I have a prayer journal where I list prayer requests I receive.  I love it when I look back at my prayer journals and see in RED ink…YES.  This means that the prayer was answered.  My 2nd journal is my gratitude journal.  Each day I write down the things that occurred that I am grateful for.  My last journal is filled with things I thought of, funny sayings I made up, or I add to my Sarahism’s.  These are words I make up for daily use.  Most of my friends know them, but I love making up new ones.  So each and every day I take time to write.

12.  End my day peacefully.  Say my prayers and a big thank you for the chance to be available to anyone who is need.

As I said, this is an example….but it happens to be today’s to-do list.  It is my intention to encourage and inspire you to do something like this.  You  might notice there was no time for drama, chaos, or frenzy and today for example, there was none.

Sweet Dreams and Peace Always

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Lesson #8 Normal……..really?….just sayin’!


I have spent time thinking about the word or the concept of “NORMAL”.

I have finally come to my own conclusion about “normal”.  I researched it, read about it, and have realized that I don’t fit the description in any way, shape or form.  I’m not sad about it.  I am happy that I made my own definition for it and I am totally content with it.

Normal is definitely not what I am.  No, I don’t eat worms, or wear hats made of tinfoil, but I am not normal.  The people closest to me really aren’t normal either.  That is where I found my definition…right there in my inner circle.  And it’s going to be the very same place where you will find what normal is for you.

My Definition:  Normal is whatever the majority of people in your life decide it is!!  It’s that easy or that difficult.  I have pink hair, tattoos, piercings, and like baggy clothes.  Now, some of my people have some of those things and we like each other a lot.  Some have none of those things and we remain good friends.

When I step away from my people,  I stand out like a 60 foot statue of Pooh Bear.  People stare, they whisper, they even point at me as if to say, would you look at that!!  How dare she look like that and in public too.  I dare because I can.  If I didn’t believe how I believe, if I didn’t dress as I do, If I didn’t surround myself with like minded people, I would not be me.  I would be someone else.

So, normal is whatever you decide it is.  As long as you are being true to yourself, not hurting or offending anyone, then you are on your own journey of normal.  Enjoy and smile!!!

Sarah-Pink Welch © 2011

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