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Lesson #40 Internet Connections


My intention was never to become a computer user.  They seemed to be a whole lot of added busy work to what I was already doing.  One of the things I am is a writer.  I love writing in my journals and working on articles and books, using my typewriter.  To this day, I must hand write everything first and then type them up at the computer.  It’s sounds odd…but I do my best writing and thinking when I can feel the paper with my hands and stick the pen in my mouth or click the clicker a hundred times, until I find just the right word I am looking for.

Once the computer was in my house I looked at it like an uninvited guest.  I would avoid it.  I would walk passed it and turn my head so I wouldn’t see it.  I even put a small quilt over it and pretended it was something else.  Someone finally said, you know you can play solitaire on that thing and you can play other games against the computer.  Hmmm….play against the computer…beat the computer…prove it was just a box of wires and chips and things that were useless compared to the human mind.  Sounded like a wonderful thing to do.  Beat the blasted computer!!!!

Well, that was the end of my stand off.  I started playing against good old Mr. AI and lost.  I lost not once, but 5 times in a row.  I fluctuated between confusion and solutions to beating him.  Yes, the computer became a man…Mr. Artificial Intelligence, my nemesis.  My nemesis led me to a new world…the Internet.

Once I was on the Internet, I got involved in a couple of really nice groups.  I liked the people…or rather, I liked the way they presented themselves to be.  I hope never to know who they really were.  At the time, they became friends who lived in other states and countries, and it was a refreshing way to end my day.  My boys would be in bed; on went the computer, and I was off to travel the super highway on a grand adventure.

Through the years since I was introduced to the Internet, I have met many amazing people online.  I have met writers, artists, parents of children with addiction issues, people dealing with chronic illnesses, people who think outside the box and color outside the lines.  I am in awe at their kindness, their willingness to think about and pray for a stranger.  I have been blessed to have met many of my online friends in person and our coming together did not disappoint.  It was joy filled and I carry those great memories in my heart and mind each day.  On the other hand, there is a dark side to the Internet.  People can be whoever they choose to be.  They don’t have to be honest…at least by Internet standards, and they can often be very mean.  Others never ever seem to have even one good and happy day.  They thrive in their misery and sadly that misery has become who they are.

When I became part of this new Internet world I set and intention to be a positive seed planter, an encourager, and to remain present and available to people who may need someone to talk with.  I am an open book on the Internet.  My life has no secrets, and some of the chapters are quite sad but, they are nothing compared to the potential for me to touch at least one life and add some happiness or cause someone to look at things differently.  It is always my prayer that each day, when I spend my allotted amount of time (yes I set a specific amount of time) on the Internet, that I will meet someone who just needs someone to listen, or to help someone smile.  Everyday I receive many smile moments to add to my “smile bank” from people I may never meet, who know more about who I am than my own biological family.

Thank you Internet family for allowing me into your lives.  🙂

Sarah-Pink Welch ©2012

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Lesson # 27 Affirmations


When most people think of affirmations, they think of something that’s positive.  But, like many things, affirmations are a double-edged sword.

The power of words is really in play when it comes to affirmations.  If you are dealing with some self-esteem issues and you tend to walk around every day saying things like….I’m not good enough—I’ll never get that job—I don’t want to take the chance—I am so fat—I am not good at this…..well, you are very liable to see those “words” become a self fulfilling prophecy.  When you say things over and over again, you become what you are saying.  It takes 21 days to make something a habit.  It often takes a lifetime to break them.

Affirmations are often a type of “faking it until you make it” exercise!  Stand in front of a mirror and every time you do say…I love you to yourself.  Then get some colorful index cards and write great things on them…for example, I am capable—I am worthy—I am lovable—I am funny—I attract good people into my life—I am healthy—I am responsible.  Tape them all over your home so that you will be sure to see them.  The last time I checked, God is not in the business of creating junk.  People do, but not God.  None of us are perfect.  We are people always in process; unless you have given up.  I want to encourage you to give yourself chances.  You matter.  You are important.  You add value to other people’s lives.  You are stronger than you realize.  You are doing the next right thing.

So, make a decision, an intention, to love yourself…flaws and all.  If you don’t care about yourself no one else will either.

Sarah© 2012

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Lesson #2 *** Words *** Word *** Words ***


This Is What I Know For Sure Today:
Last week a 12 year old girl took her life because she was being bullied incessantly, and it appears that she could no longer take it.
Earlier this week an 11/12 year old boy who was bullied at home and school shot a couple of students-killed a teacher-then himself…he left a suicide note. Tuesday or yesterday a 14 year old boy who was bullied as a young child became a bully himself and shot and killed his 24 year old teacher. What it comes down to is this…bullies are not born they are created. And only WE can make the difference in the lives of the kids and others.
What a child sees and hears they learn; what they learn they practice; what they practice they become.
Words have more power than you can imagine. If used with care, words can hear, they will cause laughter, they inspire hope. On the other hand, words can destroy, they can harm, they can cause chaos and drama.
I love words. I am also very aware and cautious about what I say and what I write. As the saying goes, you can’t unring a bell. Once you’ve said something or written something, it is out there forever.
As you know, I watch people a lot. I also listen to the way they speak and the words they use. Things like; I am broke, I will never get another job, I hate you, why was I ever born, those people are going to give me a heart attack. And if I am around these people as they age…who who have said these things; I can guarantee you that they will never have enough money, never love the job they have, and will spend too much time wishing they were dead, and people who talk about the heart attack, headache, back ache will get those exact thing into their lives’. There is a saying, “what you think about, you bring about.” In the bible a scripture says, ‘as a man thinks so he is”. God SPOKE the world into existence. Do you see the power words have?
I have worked with so many people that believe they have no worth, no value, wish they had never been born, believe that they are inherently bad, that they a stupid or they were a mistake and worse.
You can build someone up with words, you can help them heal, you can encourage them to risk trying something they really want to do. Words can be soothing. They can help others feel love and hope. They can also cut people like a knife. One word from an adult can change a child’s life in a negative way forever. One word from an adult can improve the quality of a child’s self-esteem forever.
I want to encourage you to take time to speak if you are angry. I want to encourage you not to send that letter you wrote in haste when you were hurt. I want to encourage you to never use words that are demeaning and hurtful around a child.
If you are blessed enough to be given the chance to encourage someone who is broken, hurting, alone, afraid, ill, hopeless….please use that opportunity for the better. If everyone would just think before they speak or write something, many people would not be hurting now.
Remember the power of words and use them with wisdom.
I am sending you all pink, happy-happy-happy huggz.

Sarah-Pink Welch ©2013

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