This Is What I Know For Sure Today:
Yes and No. Those are two powerful words and sometimes we get stuck with them and when we really mean one and say the other, we end up angry with ourselves. I am a huge fan of the following: Saying Yes to life; Saying Yes to allowing yourself to be happy; Saying Yes to loving yourself; Saying Yes to friendships you can fully nurture; Saying Yes to falling in love with someone who fits in your life; Saying Yes to things you are passionate about…Love that word Yes!!!! Saying No when you are being treated like a doormat or if folks believe you have a revolving door in your heart; Saying No to being an a committee you don’t have the time and energy to serve on; Saying No when you are tired and the grand kids need to be watched again…unless you are passionate about being their sitter; Saying No when someone asks you to coach yet another sports team; Saying No to people and places that are no longer safe for you. Love the word No!!!! Now we may have learned that if we say no we will feel guilty or concerned someone won’t like us anymore. That has to be their problem NOT yours and there is no need to feel guilty. Other people say NO to you don’t they? When you need and want to say NO say it. When you say Yes to a commitment then you must keep that commitment….and if you really never wanted to be involved with it in the first place…step back, think and then answer honestly…”no I can’t/won’t do this”. No shame, no guilt, no more doormat, no more revolving door, no more missing out on loving the greatest person on earth YOU, no more skipping necessary appointments because you aren’t practicing positive self-care and mindfulness. If we don’t take care of ourselves we will likely be unable to do much of everything. We only have so much time and energy and if we keep giving it away and giving it away we will be empty vessels and that is an awful feeling. So do and say your next right thing and live contentedly with your answers.
I sure love you all very much and I am sending you big, pink YES huggz.
Sarah-Pink Welch ©2013